Tools & Tips To Improve Yourself
The Most Important Key to Self-Reliance
If you look up self-reliance in the dictionary, it will tell you that it means that you can follow your own capabilities, judgment, or resources in order to be independent. To do that you’ll need to learn to accept responsibility for everything you do without depending on what someone else says, does or thinks.
• Solutions Over Problems – A person who is self-reliant will look for solutions to any problems instead of focusing only on problems. Where most people see just complications, they see solutions.
• Don’t Blame Others – If you want to be self-reliant, you cannot place blame on other people for your choices. It’s a tricky thing to be able to look at a situation and choose the right part that you have control over so that you can do better next time.
• Know Where Your Influence Ends – You don’t control everything, and smart, self-reliant people understand where their influence ends. They know that there is no point trying to control those things outside of their influence.
• Accept the Responsibility That You Own – Being able to admit to doing something wrong, and even doing something good, is a sign of a truly independent person. You don’t need to always take the blame if you’re not also taking the credit.
• Understand That Life Is Not Fair – Bad things happen to good people. Good things happen to bad people. There is no real “karma” but, if you set out to accomplish something you can do it, you just might have to modify things a little.
• Stop Complaining – Learning how to turn negative thoughts into positive thoughts to avoid complaining is something independent people do.
• Don’t Take Everything Personally – Sometimes things aren’t about you. Even if you think someone is talking to you about something that hurts, remember that you should not take things personally without understanding it’s meant for you.
• Harness the Power of Intention – When you are ready to do something, you have the intention of doing it. For example, if you intend to lose weight, then you will use intention to eat right and move more to lose weight.
When you can become more self-reliant, you’ll be able to not only stop taking everything personally, but you’ll know exactly how to harness the power of intention to truly impact your life and others in a big way. That means that self-reliance is all about accepting responsibility when it’s appropriate.
